Why I don’t care about Offending

There are a few golden truths that seem to show up throughout our history of humanity  – culturally, religious, causes, leaps in how the human species chooses to be – etc. –

Many crafted, presented, etc., in the language or perspective of it’s ‘current’ time/space – but which, in the end – still boil down to the same, bottom-line, foundational concepts –

Given my study of a small (very small!) sliver of a multitude of ‘disciplines’ in various areas – all I know, at a deep, cellular certainty is –

If I have the urge to say – and don’t give a damn about the consequences, am prepared to pay for my “identified by others’ sins” whether it’s really true or not –

Well, then I might as well go ahead –

Lord Knows…

If I’m wrong…too early… too late in announcing…

Well –

I placed my bet and now I gotta live with what comes after the spin or roll of the dice –

Only thing goin’ for me?

Learning to be more discerning about which flocks I choose to engage with –

Choosing to keep an open mind and/or listen to what my well-evolved (if minorily messed up by acquired brain injuries, adopted coping skills, etc.) tell me

BUT at the end of the day, if I’m really ‘attached’ to something that is ‘not beneficial’ to a single, gol’ durned soul on the planet –

I’ll either be ignored or get served with plenty of data and harsh lessons to point out my errors in “being ”

The older I get – the less data I have to wait for and wade through and the Simpler Life Gets – :)

I’m starting to trust the inner beat of my own drum…

Learning to trust exactly what folks say to me, and go forth in my own choices, accordingly –

To take responsibility for any small, possible, sliver I may have contributed to the problem with,  without waiting for someone to demand that I do – or else –

Hold other’s accountable for their own choices – and walk away from those who have no clue about what they really want, or who choose to make a choice, then get mad at everyone else when it doesn’t turn out just like they dreamed –

And then wait and see if they are interested in investing energy to try to solve the perceived problem – or if they just wanna bitch about how it is –

Either way – I’ll be given clear direction to know if I wanna be “All In” or “Fold”

So yes, I may be wrong – If I am – I will pay for it –

I may have to offer, “Sorry, that was so… not my intent…I love you – just as you are – today! Tommrow?  Well, let’s just see how it all turns out, on both sides – but I can choose to love and support the you, you said you were – or not – and you’re free to share the you that really exists or some polished version

If you give me the polished version – guaranteed, by your words, actions, choices, the real you will show up eventually – maybe I’m up for seeing it as a scar/coping mechanism, that needs some more time – maybe not –

But you can bet, I’m gonna ask you about it –

And you have the same freedom – to ask me –

And neither one of us have to declare war over such small things – we can just choose to participate in each other’s version of reality or not – to stand by each other or not – to share knowledge the other may be missing – or not

To me, that’s why though I have no wish to hurt others, I don’t worry about ‘offending others’ – and I’m learning more about the ‘journey’ every day – I’ll let ya know how it all turns out – :)

You might want to walk the path or avoid it all costs – remains to be seen – :)

But so far, the more I walk this path, the more I make a difference for one person at a time – the more I learn about perspectives/experiences unknown to me before –

The more I’m exposed to possibilities of what might ‘really work’ –

Yup – I’ll do my best to ‘respect your house’ and support you even when I think you’re daft – but, after all, we have a ‘history’ and you may just be onto something –

OR – Maybe you and I are are hurting each other more than we should just trying to walk on the path in tandem – maybe best if we wave goodbye – with fond farewell and say, “I can’t follow your path, nor walk it with you – but be sure to touch base and let me know how that worked out for ya – for good or for ill – cuz I will listen to your story.”


You Playin’ – Win or Lose

And here, is the scheduled post I wrote last Saturday – just to keep your reader rather balanced and safe from my tendencies to share in bulk – then chose to post 2 in day and shock ya when I haven’t done so, for oh-so-long! :)

You Already Playin’ the Game – Everyday…

Only question to ask – how invested are you in winnin’ or losin?  :)

(Paraphrased quote) You ain’t alone – ain’t no one else in this world ain’t carrying their own burdens, and I’m here – you can play the game given to you when you came into this world, or not…but I’m here and I say, you can do this – from movie, “Legend of Beggar Vance”

Yup, I love folks who show up to play… :)

What the Heck Were Ya Thinking?

One of the best gifts given to me from my dad was introducing me to option of asking myself this, instead of depending upon him or waiting for someone else to ask me (remind me)….

Coupled with the advice that if I could just stand outside of myself, for just a moment, and look at me, sans the layers of filters and perspectives regarding goals, hurts, ambitions or scars – would what I’m doing make any sense or have any logic?

Yup – this month is his birthday month and the month of Thanksgiving –

So, thanks Dad – for teaching me to ask myself – instead of waiting for someone else to ask me – OR for being willing to answer or at least hear ’em out when they do ask –

Miss ya – :)


YES! Join Me in a Break to Victory Dance!

After many months of compiling data from numerous sources –

After many hours of building an infrastructure that means sitewide messages update cuz one date field, in one custom post got ‘updated’ – I’m now taking a break from coding to content generation/data uploads/double-checks – that I dove into once I had ‘nailed down’ the If And If, Or If, this, show that – but IF this, that and/or this, then – display something else –

This is why I build websites – why I research tools for months on end before recommending them – because, over all, for time and $ spent – they will provide the highest returns on investment – No, they may not be perfect – no, they may not meet your every single, bloomin’ need – but what the heck?  Ya only gotta learn the one or two things and wait for the developers to catch up with how star-spangled innovative you are – until then – still reap some rewards if you set your goals and set your daily or weekly or monthly ‘to do lists’ – :)


I am into free-wheeling, data uploads, and content refinement now – where it’s easy – and listen’ to inspirational movies while I do so – and, (sob, again) – I had to take a break when the roar of the crowd indicated I needed to watch the Daddy scene that chokes me up – every – frickin’ time – in fact – I might of embarrassed the man-child unit, who had another man-child unit over for the weekend, when I once knocked on his ‘cave’ door and said,

“I still cry – every time this scene comes on – isn’t it wonderful, you want me to rewind it so you all can watch it too?”

(Ahem…he and the friend said they forgave me for interrupting some massive level of virtual-important-battle-to-be-won-to-move-to-next-level….)

But, before I share the clip, have to say the movies are full of hard-arse Dad’s that do their best to protect their young from the horrible disappointments they experienced, pain felt or lessons learned – and each generation, in it’s turn, will fight Dad – (Mom, too – )

But in the end – when you stand, fight and win – It IS AWESOME! – But it doesn’t mean as much as your Dad (or your Mom) showing up to say, in their own way, “OK – ya did it – I’m proud of you)

Love ya, Dad & Mom – you and parents like you, are still my Heroes! :)

P.S.  Time to suit up for the barefoot around the living room victory dance –

A Post of Titles

I’m clearing out/trashing 25 drafts from my account here at WordPress –


Perhaps because it appears I’m better at writing titles than I am at writing full posts that stay on target and come in under 1,000 words or so –

Whaddya think?:

  • “Pain is Still Pain…”
  • “Yes, You May Someday be an Arse, too, If you haven’t already been one…”
  • “The Power and Loss of Not Complaining”
  • “It Isn’t always Easy to be Simple”
  • “Someday, I might be a Lady…”
  • “You’re Never Alone and Miracles Abound”
  • “There’s No Crying in Baseball…”
  • “Ode to Country Doc of Yore”
  • “Why You Can’t Visit Me in Jail – Once Again….”
  • “The Elephant Has Left The Room”
  • “Blowin’ Bubbles and Raspberries”

And quite a few more – but you get the drift…

Each post had it’s merits – each one contained a memory, of a moment in time and it’s connection to what I see as universal truths – some even with some inspirational movie clips or music – and yet – there in the Drafts folder they sat –

So I deleted ’em all –

Cuz, ya know – if it was the right time or the need was great enough – or I was the only one who was going to say “it” in the just way the right way, that one other person needed to hear, at that point in time – well, I woulda just hit the publish button, right then and there – perfect or not, short, long, who cares?  I would have had the urge to just hit publish – consequences be damned…


Since I didn’t, well – I figure the Universe is telling me, “think about it some more, you’re close, but not quite yet on target – it’s okay to wait…”

So you may see some of these titles, along with a post, someday – or they may show up a little or lot differently – but rest assured, if what I’m thinking about is something you really needed to hear, just now – they will be published – if no one, anywhere, needed to hear it – well, there in the trash bin they will sit – until I remember to clean that ‘digital room’ out, as well…   :)

And if you read, and think, “Who needed to hear this?” – well – ahem, obviously, the message wasn’t for you – so move on, nothing to see here…  :)

Comments Section – Fantabulous!

I’ve spent more of my time logged into WordPress in the ‘sharing comments/likes’ section, than I have in giving you a “lil’ mobile library of posts at your fingertips” area…

My bad – as judged by some –

But I figure – I’m here for a different perspective from what seems to be the touted norms –

Community –

Yup, I still think the comments section of any post/product/news article, to be a gold mine – it will tell me what I need to know – really –

I may be wrong – but I still think I’m right – in the long run take of “in a hundred years, what will be the difference?” scheme of things….

Regarding Stats

Granted – I look at my stats – I have a frequently visited post that shows up simply because I chose to entertain myself and my followers by doing my in-depth review/how-to for a couple of purchased items, then shared the url to my blog post, instead of blogging in the ‘review this item’ section of the suppliers website –

-not because I’m a great writer, or star-bangled-awesome – but simply because, I have a community here of followers that seem to be rather on the same path as I, and I’ll write for sharing with them, first, about cool finds/experiments/successes and failures –  and then share the link, instead of rewriting the sucker – again- when asked for a ‘review’ –

I’m lazy – what can I say?  :)

( I swear, if I read one more ‘review’ that says, “Haven’t used it yet but have high hopes, based off what I’ve been told…” – complete with a 5 Star (or 10+ or whatever system the online entity has chosen to implement) – I’ll scream in frustration….

My take?  If you haven’t used it, if you don’t know – RESIST The “Have to do” urge from the gazillion automated emails sent to you requesting you review your purchase!  –

Seriously!  I’ve gotten “Review Your Recent Purchases” email from folks well before I’ve even received the damn thing via shipping and had an opportunity to take said item out for a spin –

And, you can bet your dollar-bottom (my code for ‘arse’), I most likely ordered in the off-season, with a return customer coupon code –

So NO! – I ain’t gonna tell ya how the snowplow attachment I ordered really worked in reality when it’s frickin’ June -and I just received in the mail – Hell!  It’s still stacked in a box on the front porch – awaiting it’s ‘implementation’ time – THEN I’ll tell ya how it worked out  – “

And if I have to work a little harder to get to the right spot, cuz your emailed ‘Review Now” link has ‘expired’, cuz you wanted to track stats, but didn’t plan ahead for the day when someone like me might order – OR you decided to do a site redesign and didn’t bother fixing all your old links to match up with crap you sent out before – so be it – maybe I’m happy enough to leave an awesome or “OMG! what were ya thinking?” review in the right spot – maybe not – I’ll let ya know – 

I guess, maybe at the end of the day, I’ll never really ‘get’ the wide spread and ‘have to do’ ‘tips and tricks’ of having a blog, promoting your biz, etc.

Cuz, for me, in the end…

It’s all about the Quality of the Community You Chose to Invest In

It’s about what you’re willing to say is important, even if you have to work, little bit by little bit over the next years, to make it happen – and it’s about what kind of folks you choose to ‘engage’ with –

I still, STILL, believe if most of our bright ideas were fashioned off this kind of base – well –

We might, as a species, start making better decisions – :)

Can You?  Or Should You?

I guess, on a multitude of levels regarding my daily observation of life – I think of what Jeff Goldblum, as Ian Malcom in Jurassic Park – says it best:

“Your scientists  were so preoccupied with whether or not they could, they didn’t stop to think about if they should…”

Yup, applies to cool tech tools, too – :)

And, at the end of the day – I guess, that still says it all for me – Yes – there are all kinds of bright, shiny, pie-in-the-sky promises of ‘what’s gonna deliver what I want ‘ – but do you, in the end, really know what you want?

I like to rely on waiting, pondering, thinking about, getting feedback, holding other’s accountable for what they said – (in either promotional or terms & conditions copy, or decisions, or choices, or what have ya – ) – AND yet, be the type of person that can hold the space to hear, “Yes – but now I’ve changed my mind – so now what’s an option?”

I have to take my lumps when I ‘do” when maybe I shouldn’t have, even though I could — so what makes anyone else different?

This is why I’m more vested in Community than I am in Technology –

You see – if I share enough, about me – reach out to you – and you can honestly say, “Hmm…I like this gal and what she has to say, even when she ticks me off…”

See how many fail-safes I already have built in?

You Don’t?

Here’s the list:

  1. I’ve been totally honest, best as I know how, to share my current perspective of reality –
  2. You are free to point me in the direction of a ‘piece of the puzzle’ I may have missed, unless you just demand I buy into your view in face of missing facts or data – or want to forget what you insisted was true for you 2 months ago or 2 seconds ago – I do try to listen when you’re speaking…
  3. I don’t claim to be perfect or have all the answers
  4. I expect you to have a handle on what you really want – and if you don’t, to have the courage to say, “I’m not sure yet…” or “I don’t know…”
  5. I really, really want to be aligned with ‘a flock’ of humans  – not a race, culture, nationality, religion, gender, etc., etc. etc (I am NOT going to list out all the various perspectives that exist in today’s world view – else this post would become a multi-volume tome – ) – that ‘gets’ that I wanna know what your take is – right now – I don’t care if you change your mind in face of new information or self-discovery – just let me know that the version of you I knew from before, has changed now – and you chose to change – and there’s a reason why – All I’ll ever really KNOW about you, is what you choose to share with me, tell me or what your subconconcious body-language, expressions or writings say over and over again, that I think you just might not be paying enough attention to –  What I ‘pick up on’  may/may not be really TRUE for you and where you’re at – just now – cuz don’t ya know – I have my little flaws in perspective/filters in place, too – – :)
  6. One of our greatest gifts as a species, is the ability to hold the space for someone else to be their ignorant selves – AND the option to make a conscious choice to hold an open/curious/adventurous mind – No, it’s not easy, but with training, it makes Life Simple –
  7. I still believe our greatest perceived-by-others flaws/warts/challenges – Are, from another perspective, the saving grace – for us, for others – at one moment of space/time – maybe it needs to be ‘improved’ – maybe you just need to be a little more discerning on who you choose to bless with your so-called ‘flaws’ – and call people on when they complain about the very part of you that served them so well – but now, is unable to walk the new path they decided to go skippin’ down – with a wave and friendly, “Have fun!  Not willing to go with ya right now – but be sure to touch base and report back how I’m missing out by bein’ stubborn – Luv Ya – Safe Journey!”
  8. I still believe our greatest enemy is lying to ourselves and thinking change is the exception, rather than the rule…

Yes, Community Still seems a Better Wager, to Me….

I’d rather slowly find a way to steadily surround myself by a community of folks who:

  1. Forgive me my ‘sins’ of uninformed thinking, while being open to possibility, I might have seen a perspective they haven’t…yet….
  2. See how my perspective might have some merits – or fatal flaws – and willing to discuss/debate it
  3. And – who forgive me when I get frustrated and blurt out, “I STILL DON”T GET IT!   None of what you said makes sense to me -Am I stupid or do we need to work on our communication skills (‘we’ and ‘our’ cuz, communication takes two or more to play – well –
  4. Are willing to take the patience and time to educate me when I ask questions- Instead of getting mad cuz I don’t immediately see their reality as such –

So there it is – warts and all –

Why I’ve been struggling and not posting much, here lately – and spent more time writing long missives in comments sections – or like-likey-liking button pushing – or just scrolling through reading without doing much else –

I’ve figured out that what I thought was the ultimate ‘power for good’ of the online/internet/social media landscape – isn’t really the same infrastructure/use so many others see/use –

I have found out –

There are those who appreciate my blunt, blabby-advice-possibilities/encouragement ways –

Sometimes, what I post that is what I feel, and I fear may be too ‘raw’ or ‘scary’ is actually, exactly what another needed to hear – just now –

Sometimes, folks are kind and ignore me when I’m not at my best –

The ‘good’ outweighs the ‘bad’, given My Experience Data –

One connection at a time..at least in my lil’ world – and since my existence and self-identity – neither one – are tied to a gazillion stats graphs telling me how popular I am with the masses –

But comments/emails/PM indicate what I said made a difference – well…

Seriously – I don’t have much ‘hard data’ at hand to induce me to change much, just now –   :)


Field of Battle

Sometimes, what you think you signed up for, turns into somethin’ else –

And only those who grasp the true gift of the human spirit, get what that really means –

Some clips – from the *sports* movies I’ve been listening to, today…

(Yes, I know, I know – I’m a sports dweeb who doesn’t get, well, any of “IT”, whatsoever – doesn’t mean I can’t be inspired by the portrayed higher road – :)

Sometimes, you ask for old history to be put to rest –

Sometimes, you’re willing to ask for help and encourage another to take the field with ya – and ya give credit where credit due –

Sometimes, you choose to  throw out your playbook – when what you’re trying ain’t working – And sometimes, you choose to help another – even when they may make “it” and come to challenge you later – at least you’re fighting a worthy and honorable opponent – win or lose – you’ve still won –

And sometimes – ya do it cuz someone has to, and you’re the best person for the job – regardless of your personal losses –

And sometimes, you have to ask, what is the problem?  Really? (Over and over again, I might add…and take the heat of popular opinion – )

And sometimes, sometimes – ya place your bet, you take a chance – and you don’t even realize when you just won –

But at the end of the day – all ya ever got, is your team-mates – even those who think you placed your bets wrong – or are rootin’ for ya to lose –

Who Knows, Really?

But I still Believe –

In the Human Spirit –

And I’m ‘standing on the shoulders of giants’  – in history, the movie industry, the fan base at YouTube – all, because they chose to share what was important to ’em –

(thank you very much – giants –  um, yeah – I’m vaguely aware folks may think I’m talking about one football team – or is it baseball?  Or both? :)  What would sports ignoramus me, really know, in the end? )

I only ask you one question…

Ya wanna embrace the best to be offered – and walk away from old mistakes?

Ya willing to take the fields, of what you personally believe in and stand alone, in face of overwhelming forces, just cuz ya think it’s that important…?

We’re all human –

(Unless you’re a dog, who has learned to read this post and wonder at the audacity of humans, in which case – please forgive my narrow scope and ignorance – thanks for not ripping my throat out while I walk the ‘learning journey’ and remember – I’ll back your loyalty, come what may – you accepted me and I accepted you – into our ‘respective’ packs – even when our own kind turned against us –  but never think I don’t realize the patience you’ve exercised…and are the sacrifices I made for you…enough?  Or do I need to learn more?)

At the end of the day?

You, Me – we all- can choose – whether to take point or serve in the back-up ranks –

You, Me – we all- can choose to support those things to believe or aim for or … or walk away -to take a stand or not – to follow the popular stance – or stand alone, hopin’ back-up shows up – and retreat, gracefully, when things don’t turn out just like we hoped and wished for –

At the end of the day…

You pick a battle, you sign up for it – and you place your bet –

I still Believe the human species can survive long enough to get good at playing the odds and beating the house – even when it takes personal sacrifice –

After all, isn’t that why we’ve gotten as far as we have?,

I’m placing my bet on Our Strengths – And will henceforth, ignore coddling what I see as Our Weaknesses –

“Heaven goes by favor.  If it went by merit, you would stay out and your dog would go in.” – Mark Twain