Top 10 Things I learned from Dad

Dad, his work truck and faithful Buffy
1. Funerals are the easiest place to have the best intentions and still wound someone else.

My dad was a Mason and was often called upon to deliver words at funerals of fellow Masons.   I figured he knew what he was talking about.

2. Watch the sunset and think of all the things it has seen in it’s journey today – your problems are probably not so bad, after all.

He was always good at putting things into perspective.

3. If you pay attention while you take something apart, you can usually get it fixed and put back together again.

This is why I’m rather bold with repair projects. I fixed my broken Barbie hair dryer when I was 6 or so and never looked back.

4. There is nothing new under the sun.

You may have a new interpretation, use or perspective, but it’s all been done before.   Which leads us to the next one…

5. Knowing and understanding history helps you to avoid repeating past mistakes.

When I see the same games played out over the course of human events, I wish everyone had learned this from their Dad.

6. There are few things that are bad in and of themselves.   Moderation in all things keeps you on the path of happiness.

I try to heed his advice whenever my life gets out of balance.

7. Some people never get the message unless it’s delivered by a baseball bat.

My father was not a violent man – but he also had experience with those who just weren’t willing to back off or back down until you made it very and not-so-nicely clear that they and their values were not welcome at your table.   While I’ve never struck someone with a baseball bat, I do credit this term with giving me the courage to stand up to those I needed to.

8. God can be found in the beauty of the plains, the quiet of an evening breeze or the laughter of a child.

My dad was not religious, but deeply spiritual.   My spiritual beliefs exist because he introduced me to the Magic that is everywhere.

9. Enjoying the journey is just as important as arriving at the destination.

Dad would linger over extra cups of tea in the morning before heading to work, or over beer with friends on his way home.  He knew there were things to do, but he also knew how to stop and smell the roses.

10. Courage is not expressed only on battlefields or during crisis.  Often, courage means getting up and doing what needs to be done, for one more day, even when you don’t feel like it.

My dad was born towards the end of the Great Depression – it was many years before the area he grew up in realized any sense of recovery.   He had many a story of neighbors and families who chose to get up and do what needed to be done in the face of foreclosure, bankruptcy, homelessness and loss.

14 thoughts on “Top 10 Things I learned from Dad”

  1. I had to smile as I re-read our comments from 2013…. LOL…. My Phone App is now installed in my newer phone.. which is much better at keeping me informed of your updates.. That is until the notifications that are many now dont overload and then go into some red zone mode that then decide to just end, when I know I had loads unread replies and new posts from blogs I had yet to read..
    So the Joys are still on going TamrahJo…. But I am still smiling and enjoying our conversations ❤
    Mega Hugs ..
    We are having a lovely Father's day here..
    Strange, that our Fathers Day are on the same day.. Yet our Mothers Days are different Months.. Ours was back in March for Mothers Day..
    Sending Love and Hugs ❤

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    1. Ahh…well….me? I’m back to just logging in on desktop – to do everything – but trying to log in every so often to keep up my ‘new posts/comments/replies’ list – even if! I don’t really have much to say – 😀 I am well enough to ‘go do’ so many infrastructure/garden things and have more clients in my itty-biz than ‘back when’ I posted alot – every month – me?

      Well, I still write/journal, etc., but I just don’t post as often – other things to do – ! Glad you are having a good Father’s Day – This is also, the first year, here in USA, that Junteenth is celebrated as federal holiday (and adopted by many states, as holiday) to acknowledge and not let get ‘lost to history’ the last date, known to history, when slaves were notified of the fact they had been emancipated over 2 years prior (news/Union troops in the West took awhile to ‘get ‘er done’ in notifications after the horrific, bloody, Civil War – –

      So, for this year, at least, two federally recognized holidays, fall on June 19th

      As for mother’s Day? I’m glad it falls when it does, here – almost 6 months out from me ‘overdoing/spending’ for Mom’s b-day and Christmas, cuz…well – in her childhood? They were so close together she often only got one small gift, for both! Fortunately, she is okay with me buying her a plant (instead of sending flowers!)

      😀 May we all find a way, someday, to celebrate what is in our heart, everyday, without having to wait for ‘calendar’ to tell the rest of the world, “Hey! I’m celebrating today! Back off! Work is for tomorrow!” – 😀

      Until then? I wish someone would walk the years and years and years it takes to ‘everyone takes the day off” in August – August is short of holidays – ya know – and don’t we all need a 3-day weekend to ‘keep up with the garden? Harvest?? 😀

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  2. Reblogged this on The Good, Bad and Ludicrous and commented:

    Happy Father’s Day, Dad. I still feel the same way – although, given the turmoil in the world, and the way various trends have developed around the word, “happiness” that I believe (the trends) are not an example of ‘balance/peace’ but rather an unbalanced approach based on fears of ‘losing oneself’ in the anxiety, fear, or grief’. Fortunately, those around me who accuse me of being negative, understand more when I share the beauty, peace and wisdom I found by sitting with fear, pain, sorrow – and they feel safe enough to share with me, why they pursue only happiness, and cannot do as I do, for they get lost and cannot find away out –

    But you know? It all comes back to what I learned from you, observation of your life, for the time we had together here on this plane.

    Mom and I are playing in the dirt today – she is back ‘home’, happy and I am once more close enough, to look after her, daily, as you asked of me in your final days.

    I am planting a native flower mix in one area – and soon? Will have a hay meadow mix, in another huge area – and if the plantings are blessed by Mother Nature? I can walk, gaze upon and remember our walks in the pasture, in the good years of plentiful rain – and here, in my world? There will be a living monument to the gifts you gave many, while you were here.
    Love you,
    Sis

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  3. Your Dad sounded to be one wonderful man, with many a good moral to live by..
    Now those 10 things alone I should think have stood you in good stead all your life..
    Wonderful read.. thank you for sharing and such a wonderful tribute on Fathers Day..

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    1. I shudder to think how life would have been, had he not been my dad! 🙂 He was knowledgeable, fair and kind. And he understood my ‘philosopher/big picture heart’ – he chose to give me guidelines that work for everything, instead of step-by-step instructions on the details! 🙂
      Thank you for reading and commenting!

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      1. I am not getting your updates in my emails so need to rectify that .. I hardly ever visit via the reader… thats why my email box is bulging! at the seams LOL…

        The pleasure was ALL mine! 🙂 Thank YOU!

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        1. LOL – For me, I found it easier to unsubscribe from the emails and do everything through the WordPress reader/dashboard – my email is much more manageable now – but then, I also recently figured out to download the WordPress app for my phone, so I’m keeping up with my ‘chats via comments’ much better now! LOL

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        2. Yes I often do the odd comment via phone although I didnt have a app.. So often loose my comment once posted as the pages dont reload.. LOL.. Testing my patience skills.. LOL..
          But my little phone screen is so small on my Blackberry device I need to magnify all posts which again poses problems… Arrgh well.. Such are the Joys of keeping in touch..
          Many thanks for your replies and visits 🙂

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        3. I have serious FF issues – (Fat Finger) – but after 4 years, my blackberry went kaput and the ex was kind enough to upgrade it to one that has voice recognition – I must say that I still lisp pretty bad when I get stressed or overtired (compliments of the stroke) so what gets typed is often a source of great amusement!!
          Hope you have a great week! 🙂

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