Ionia and Charles are up to mischief again…
And don’t I just love the firestorm of discussion that occurs when they are…
Today, the conversation got started by Is Sex Always about Love? from the writer’s perspective over at Ionia’s.
Which resulted in Charles wading in with Idiots Guide to Writing Sex Scenes, to help us all out with the quandry of sex scenes –
I encourage you to take a gander at each, good for a laugh and the comments area is full of some true gems from other writers….
Which is why I’m posting my two cents….
A trip through the comments indicates to me there is a population of writers who understand the sex scene is necessary for showing the motives, motivations and or moving the plot along, but don’t always feel comfortable writing such scenes….
It also indicates there’s more than just a few readers who skip over such parts, or laugh and make fun of them…
If this little slice of statistical heaven indicates such thoughts, then why, exactly, are we stuck with the cliche, “Sex Sells”?
Are we perhaps not being totally honest with ourselves and others?
Or are we being totally honest and the media world insists on reminding us their illusion is much preferable to our reality?
This may not have hit my radar so pointedly, if Cranky hadn’t written about the F word recently in What the Feck?. Apparently, saying Feck or Frack is acceptable, because it takes the sexual connotation out of the mix…
Quite frankly, I think the whole enunciation of the ‘u’ versus the ‘e’ or ‘ra’ in the word is what brings about the visceral reaction, rather than the actual meaning of the word.
But then, I’m weird – there are folks who have said, “F**k you, you’re just a mess” and I’ve laughed right along with them all while secretly wishing I had gone ahead and punched that other loser who said, acidly sweet, “Good morning, how are you this fine day?” when I knew durn well they didn’t give a feck how I was doing…
What defines our cultural rights and wrongs regarding what’s vulgar and what’s not? Our preferences? Is it just our nature/nuture? Or are there somethings we instinctively know are more important than others? Do we disdain the words, simply because they accomplish nothing? Do we refrain from speech because the vocalizations of some sounds are just too ugly, too harsh?
In the end, does it really matter what we say or write, as long as the intention is clear?
Inquiring minds want to know…