Truly! I Did Attempt Simple…Short….Comment…..Honest!
Alas, the writing of said comment soon morphed into such size, I could only feel good about myself if I blogged on my own site and didn’t Hijack her Comment area with my own little dysfunctions….
Fair is, After All, Fair….
Someday – I shall learn how to write a comment without compiling an entire blog post –
Until then, I want my Gold Star for realizing I was waxing eloquent in the space of another and stopped myself prior to hitting the “Send” button for said comment – WHAT?!?
Really?!? There are no gold stars for writing your own posts instead of having a blog in the comments section of other blogs?
Fine, whatever…..But know, you’ve really disappointed me in my said quota for Gold Stars for the week….
I shall refer you to Linda’s Post, yet again –
IF you’re to make sense of the following, you really should peruse her post, first –
If you don’t go read her post, might as well not read any of the following – because, I imagine, none of the following will make sense if you stumble into it unaware of what went before…
The My Space Page of my son (who died in 2008) is still live and able to be visited -( I just double checked, for the first time in quite some time, to make sure I’m not lying to you – yup – still there – – with drinking bikini babes splashed on home page – names I don’t recognize unless I work back through his history page – 🙂 what does a mother really know, though, after all….)
When he died in 2008, I was unable to log in, post updates for his funeral services or anything, EVEN after multiple customer service calls/emailing/faxing My Space a copy of his death certificate, because he didn’t have a ‘back-up, in case I die, it’s okay if my Mom wants to let folks know what is happening” plan in place –
I wanted so badly to be able to put up a notice at his site- to say what happened and to express my gratitude to those in his My Space community who had ‘checked in on him’ – to let them know why they were met with a wall of silence that could no longer be broken – –
Truth be told, it finally broke my heart to check in, read and be powerless to do anything and after two years of trying, I gave up – couldn’t take the pain of dealing anymore with reps who thought I was a hacker/scammer, 🙂
So….MORBID or NOT – I personally take advantage of any “Legacy” options available for any of my ‘accounts’ – email, blogging, etc. I fill out the information, “Hey! If I haven’t logged in for 3 months, here’s who to contact and if they tell you I died, you can believe them – and if you’re an arse while dealing with them, guess who is going haunt you from beyond the grave? “
I never want to put someone else through what I chafed against – and maybe, I’m still healing and taking it all too seriously, but my family has been prepped,
“This is in my safe deposit box – this journal contains what is needed to avoid the Armageddon of Internet Pain – “
and I update it frequently, as far as passwords, etc., – (because I’m anal) but I never want someone else to experience the pain of helplessness I did – –
Even if, said trusted folks, with password info, take advantage to post:
“Ding-Dong, the wicked witch is dead….”
🙂 I still don’t have to worry about my loved ones looking at the string of comments, stating:
“Where R U?”
“Are u OK?”
“What R U Doing”
And wishing, so ardently, to answer and having no way to do so other than opening their own (unwanted) social account and social stalking folks until they get the message that could have simply been posted, had a death certificate been enough proof –
BUTT! After that long arse harangue that was more than anyone bargained for or more than anyone in their right mind should have posted, I have to say – Linda – if you want to trust that Scheduled Posts will work as planned through upgrades and the years, and wish to have stuff published after you’re dead –
Go for it!
But please, let your family know how to log in and post a simple, “We Loved Her – We are Leaving Her Site As Is – but know, your comments may not be answered in the way you thought they would….”
Because, yes, my son always found ways to answer – even if it wasn’t on MySpace –
Oh – you want an example?
Okay – New Year’s Eve, 2009 – 6 months after he’s gone:
I, believing the (now ex) hubby that his cell phone account wouldn’t be cancelled for 2 years, because it was just too much money to cancel, texted to my boy:
“I Love You and Miss You – Happy New Year’s, Babe”
and was actually stunned by hurt when I immediately received a response,
“Who is this?”
To which I wanted to say, “This is your Mama! You dunce!” –
Until I realized what had taken place –
The response to my “Oh-so sorry-here’s what happened” message from Same-Number-Not-Your-Son-Kind-Stranger, is as follows:
“I’m so sorry for your loss – I do not know what to say, except, I hope this year brings you more happiness than last year.”
There are many ways to communicate and whether through a cell phone text or a blog, I believe the Heavens always send those who grieve just what they need, just when they need it – 🙂
And Linda, there’s a very good statistical chance that your Blog Posting from the Grave will do the same for others – 🙂