Why I don’t care about Offending

There are a few golden truths that seem to show up throughout our history of humanity  – culturally, religious, causes, leaps in how the human species chooses to be – etc. –

Many crafted, presented, etc., in the language or perspective of it’s ‘current’ time/space – but which, in the end – still boil down to the same, bottom-line, foundational concepts –

Given my study of a small (very small!) sliver of a multitude of ‘disciplines’ in various areas – all I know, at a deep, cellular certainty is –

If I have the urge to say – and don’t give a damn about the consequences, am prepared to pay for my “identified by others’ sins” whether it’s really true or not –

Well, then I might as well go ahead –

Lord Knows…

If I’m wrong…too early… too late in announcing…

Well –

I placed my bet and now I gotta live with what comes after the spin or roll of the dice –

Only thing goin’ for me?

Learning to be more discerning about which flocks I choose to engage with –

Choosing to keep an open mind and/or listen to what my well-evolved (if minorily messed up by acquired brain injuries, adopted coping skills, etc.) tell me

BUT at the end of the day, if I’m really ‘attached’ to something that is ‘not beneficial’ to a single, gol’ durned soul on the planet –

I’ll either be ignored or get served with plenty of data and harsh lessons to point out my errors in “being ”

The older I get – the less data I have to wait for and wade through and the Simpler Life Gets – 🙂

I’m starting to trust the inner beat of my own drum…

Learning to trust exactly what folks say to me, and go forth in my own choices, accordingly –

To take responsibility for any small, possible, sliver I may have contributed to the problem with,  without waiting for someone to demand that I do – or else –

Hold other’s accountable for their own choices – and walk away from those who have no clue about what they really want, or who choose to make a choice, then get mad at everyone else when it doesn’t turn out just like they dreamed –

And then wait and see if they are interested in investing energy to try to solve the perceived problem – or if they just wanna bitch about how it is –

Either way – I’ll be given clear direction to know if I wanna be “All In” or “Fold”

So yes, I may be wrong – If I am – I will pay for it –

I may have to offer, “Sorry, that was so… not my intent…I love you – just as you are – today! Tommrow?  Well, let’s just see how it all turns out, on both sides – but I can choose to love and support the you, you said you were – or not – and you’re free to share the you that really exists or some polished version

If you give me the polished version – guaranteed, by your words, actions, choices, the real you will show up eventually – maybe I’m up for seeing it as a scar/coping mechanism, that needs some more time – maybe not –

But you can bet, I’m gonna ask you about it –

And you have the same freedom – to ask me –

And neither one of us have to declare war over such small things – we can just choose to participate in each other’s version of reality or not – to stand by each other or not – to share knowledge the other may be missing – or not

To me, that’s why though I have no wish to hurt others, I don’t worry about ‘offending others’ – and I’m learning more about the ‘journey’ every day – I’ll let ya know how it all turns out – 🙂

You might want to walk the path or avoid it all costs – remains to be seen – 🙂

But so far, the more I walk this path, the more I make a difference for one person at a time – the more I learn about perspectives/experiences unknown to me before –

The more I’m exposed to possibilities of what might ‘really work’ –

Yup – I’ll do my best to ‘respect your house’ and support you even when I think you’re daft – but, after all, we have a ‘history’ and you may just be onto something –

OR – Maybe you and I are are hurting each other more than we should just trying to walk on the path in tandem – maybe best if we wave goodbye – with fond farewell and say, “I can’t follow your path, nor walk it with you – but be sure to touch base and let me know how that worked out for ya – for good or for ill – cuz I will listen to your story.”



8 thoughts on “Why I don’t care about Offending”

    1. And Let The games begin with Wally – Who has protected status as one who gets way more leeway than casual passer-bys – he is, in my lil world – ‘family – ‘ Ok – Wally – either list out why it’s offensive or sigh and say, “Well, durn ( or your favorite, less offensive blurt of frustration with me – )
      ..” I PUT a smiley face after it – What the heck does she want, now?!?” –
      And here’s my 🙂 – and you have a like button at your disposal – or a comment field to play within – 🙂 appreciate you and your insights! 🙂


      1. Ha…me offended? Hardly. I am practically unoffendable. And you have certainly never offended me.

        I personally waver. Sometimes I like to think I don’t worry about offending…but then I realize that un necessary offense is not really the Christlike way. I actually struggle with the issue very much. Because the truth is, in my natural state? I love to cause offense.

        Add to that my own general cluelessness, and I am an offense waiting to happen. Sigh.

        By the way, I put a smiley face after it, what the heck do you want?

        He he he he

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        1. IMHO, Wavering indicates a wish to ponder/think about it, first – and how, on earth, is that bad for any involved?
          It means taking the time to think before doing –
          Yeah-Yeah – there are all kinds of things that say, “do this, then that, follow the checklist and give up responsibility for your own choices and you too can survive popular opinion – ”

          Thing is – I know a tad about history – both those who have survived it and those who deeply impacted it, but are now forgotten –

          I figure, either way is a gamble and if I want to sit at the table, I have to sign up for the risk -and pay the price for bad bets, in any form – my own or those who I chose to walk with for awhile and support in their version of reality – 🙂

          Thanks for clarifying the smiley face – know it took you some extra time to type that little line – but, did I not listen to the ones that came before it? This is what Fair Trade REALLY looks like! LOL 😛

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        2. I like that about wavering. Maybe it does show a person not just blundering ahead without thinking.

          It’s funny. I do tend to be terse in comments. I think I have ten thousand words in my mind and I put ten down on paper so to speak. I guess I must think people can read my mind!

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    1. Okay – but aren’t ya glad I trimmed down the original 2468 word post AND didn’t ‘Send’ while writing in your comments area?!? One step at a time, and count yer blessins’ – 🙂


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