It’s Simple- Not Easy

Part …um….. a gazillion?


So much of my life/encounters with others, fall into this category –

“Why yes, that’s simple to fix, just do this/that!”

And yet, none of it is easy –

Not even telling your own story – doing your own work – connecting with others through shared passions, but not necessarily, the same way of looking at things the same way….

To me?

Very little of ANYTHING in traversing the modern world, is easy

Unless, overall, one has resources to spare, closes oneself off to anything that doesn’t EXACTLY match up with their aspirations and viewpoints…

The More One Explores to Broaden Horizons?

The more misinterprations that can happen – the more one opens up to being vulnerable, to ridicule, to attack.

Don’t we all wish at one time or another, to BE:

  • The strong, silent type
  • The lone wolf, self-made, don’t need nobody or nothing but myself personage
  • The bridge builder
  • The social butterfly
  • The one who can always say the right thing, at just the right moment
  • All while, we pick/choose what to pursue, but still feel ‘true to ourselves’ while pursuing

Oh, don’t we all just ‘wish’??

“If wishes were horses, we’d all ride,

If wishes were fishes, we’d have some fried”

Multiple ‘atributions’ and links to versions of this, NONE of which match what I was raised with, so, nope, no author, no link – have fun with that Search on the first line – and seeing what pops up in results! πŸ˜€

Simply Put? Life Changes, Always

  • Every interaction or time we open ourselves up to learn, connect, survive? we each change
  • Our environment changes – through long cycles, self-regulation of Mother Earth, in response to our human actions
  • Leaders change – through election, death, learning more, or because the latest popularity poll indicates a problem and they wish to stay in power
  • Systems around us change – sometimes they grow to get better, or grow too fast, or grow too slow, go out of business, become the fox in the hen house or strive to be the guard dog in the henhouse who also is hunting the chickens, eating eggs, on the sly –
  • The social mores and social justice movements and laws and interpretations or insights from religious, political, experts, self-proclaimed leaders, ALL change –

I Struggle with Change on Some Fronts

How about you?

I worry about changes made by the world around me, that appear, to me, as a ‘slippery slope’ to slide down…

Basically? Some changes announced on personal/wider fronts, DOES, to me, on many levels, ‘trigger’ my initial response of:

“Okey-Dokey then – everyone agreed we are gung-ho about collectively building the Highway to Hell infrastructure, here on earth?

My brain committee, often, when observing the world around me….or what I feel I’m being called to provide/do, in order for myself to survive –

But MY VERSION of Hell on Earth is not the same, I don’t believe, as many who hear me say such things.

Thus, the moment I mumur, “Highway to Hell building time, eh?”

The response from others is rather mixed, dependent upon whether they are devout, which faith they are devout to, and whether or not they are an AC/DC, Rock music fan…:D

Response depends upon whether the person I’m saying it too, has an ego-centric or human centric view of the entire Universe, or not…

It depends upon what stage of their life span they are in…

Whether they are dying, living, or haven’t yet sat beside Death for a conversation…

It depends also upon the history of the area they were raised in, their family/early life history, their education opportunities, their self-learning motivations, their ease in navigating/searching for and embracing/turning away from a variety of online media fronts, published works, etc.

And yet?

For myself? The ONLY way I can ‘hold on’ when stuff changes – is to remember the lines in various works that have touched my soul, so deeply and profoundly, that I return to them over and over.

The works that seem to, year by year, as I change, experience by experience, and I live through –

The works that appear to change, become richer and deeper in meaning – but do not, for me, change ever in wording/meaning or translations.

They just unfurl more of themselves, when I CHANGE!

I return to my faves, for comfort, and often find, more breadcrumbs/layers for me to explore, every time I revisit those works.

In the end?

Many works do I re-visit, as things change, as I change, as I learn more, as they speak to me more, but, overall?

The ONE work that speaks to me, that doesn’t change, no matter how much I change, the world about me changes, those around me change –

The work that doesn’t seem to have a great following of, or any organization built around it, and therefore, vulnerable to all kinds of silly translations/’what is the meaning of…” posts/theories/hypothesis?

I still, can sink into the comfort, the overall advice, reminders and well – no matter what is going on, this text changes in it’s applicability to daily life, and all, but still, doesn’t change in the core message I hear – thus?

(Note** I recently searched to learn more about the history of Bobbie Gentry and her song “Ode to Billie Joe” – I COULDN’T believe all the story lines/hypothesis/’what does the song mean’ posts – so many of which were so very dark and put in a whole bunch of story lines, I have to wonder if that was even CLOSE to what she was thinking of, when she wrote the song –

It’ll take me MONTHS to recover from that Research to Learn More journey, that dived into the darkest sides of our nation’s collective history, wars, global history, and the evil that resides in mankind’s heart -! If someone can think of it, write about ‘what something else means’ and expound this type of stuff?? Oh, yeah, Evil walks on Earth – all the damn time, century after century – not getting away from it – I just question exactly, who/what is the creator such things – :D. So easy to blame Satan or God – instead of looking to ourselves…. )

Philosophy, at some point, frustrates me – sociology? Endlessly fascinating to me –

But, if I had to be stranded on an island, with only one written text, or one memorized verse – for the good, the bad, the ugly, the hard days, the blessed days?

That doesn’t require me to quit learning, quit improving myself, but holds the space for me to sit still and not change, for awhile? No matter how much of me changes?

A work that just doesn’t fall apart in words, or perspective etc., as the world created by human thinking marches on, after it was written?

Just One meets all the below needs of mine, all the time, ever more (thus far)

It’s message is held and referred to, intimated to or repeated in so many other works -works compiled/created both long before and long after its own creation…

  • Full enough to address core points
  • Short enough to, with practice, memorize
  • Rhymes and easy to call to mind specific lines or verses, without looking up, again, to ensure you got the original lines right
  • Written by a spiritual leader – with a murky early on ‘reported/touted provenance’ of the work – and who knows, for sure?

But for me, it’s easy to share, quickly, that for me? Sort of encapsulates the deep parts of me I strive for, fail at, but are my root focus, and introduces the ‘core of me’ today, to another – even while time spent with others trying to share who I am, how I see the topic at hand, WHILE also trying to understand, they may not have any frame of reference to put into context what I just shared – to my mind? ad nauseum…

Its so very easy to shrug off and think, “They don’t get me, so why bother?”

When communicating ideas is a struggle, without writing a 7-volume series reference manual of all the reasons, I feel such and such away, or what influenced me on feeling that way

Also, very easy for humans, including me! to sink into the comfort of only hanging out with folks who agree with us, or flatter us – so our life is ‘easier’.

But, in our diverse, advanced, world?

With all the challenges to be faced?

Being comfortable and at our ease every moment of the day, no matter what job we are tackling, bridge to build or our own ignorance to conquer?

Nothing is ever built/improved without effort and sacrifice – and the following poem, which I have shared before, I still believe,is possible for everyone who speaks/reads English, to hear/read, and find at LEAST one verse, they agree with –

But that’s just me and I could be wrong!

What say you?


GO PLACIDLY amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery.

But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.

Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.

But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.

Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be.

And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

By Max Ehrmann Β© 1927

5 thoughts on “It’s Simple- Not Easy”

  1. Okay – so seriously? My long time bloggy pals? You are in the dog-house! LOL
    Why on earth didn’t any one tell me my current theme/using the ‘verse’ block made reading Desiderata a pain in the arse???
    Lol – It’s fixed now…. ! No, I didn’t waste time fixing a new theme for my free blog – I simply replaced the verse block with regular paragraph blocks – sigh – – some day? My blog will need to get, AGAIN! a theme update – LOL
    Just as soon as my time spent here isn’t spent on Commenting and reading and trying to figure out what to post on my blog – – LOL

    Liked by 1 person

    1. yes, sometimes one must – in my world? I label it ‘growing/learning’ and trying to navigate my own wishes for nothing to change, to rest in comfort/ease/’just be me’ fronts, ALL while my brain, history, memories tell me, “things change and if you don’t change with them, and chart your way forward in a way you can live with yourself and stand before God and say, “yup, did the best I could, just then, and even now? Looking back? With what I now know? Back then? wouldn’t change a single thing, so send me to hell if you must, but I trust you to know my heart” – That’s my internal conversations –

      Humans? My society? Oh, I work to try to find the ‘works for us both/benefits us both’ best as I can, and the older I get?

      I think more and more, “well, have fun with that, I’m out of here” on some fronts and on others, try to say, “um…I don’t think you fully see where this line of thinking will take you if you embrace as life motto for all living beings here on earth” and/or, “Um, yeah, NOT doing that! Go ahead and kill me if you must, to get your own way, but understand – I FEEL so STRONGLY about this and not a passing fad/trend for me? I simply cannot support you in this, stand by you in this or give in to your wishes and what you want from me….”

      And so, I manage to drive friends and foes CRAZY in my little world of connections here on Earth – but at the end of the day?

      All I know is, simpler to just have a few core things in my mind, that I say, “I’m willing to fall on my own sword over this/willing to risk my life, my liberty, my freedom, my material goods for this…” and if I’m not willing?

      wonder whether it’s worth it or not?

      Not sure if I KNOW whether worth it or not?

      then I become the personage EVERYONE hates at least in the society I live in and throughout history?

      I get Labeled as ‘wishy-washy, indecisive, fence sitter’ etc.,

      But overall? Would rather be one of those things, for a while or forever for some things , than to kill myself needlessly for one front or another, OR become one who just doesn’t engage or stand for ANYTHING –

      we all, at some point, pick our ‘battles’ and not picking a side? Well not choosing, is, in itself, a choice none the less –

      and we all must live with the consequences of our choices/failure to choose anything –

      Thus far? This lifetime? its the one core motto that I hold so TIGHTLY to, when choices are presented to me by others and my external world, a gazillion ways, everyday – that’s the only core message – to me, that works!

      On the other hand, if I’m still attached to this or that, have done all I can? I just finally get tired/frustrated, and understand I can’t do it by myself, or make a difference by myself, and just turn it over to God,

      “here, this is yours – do your thing and let me know one way or another, what you are expecting from me, for my part – make it easy, OR make it so painful I can’t fail but act in all my flawed ways – WHATEVER!

      I don’t care – just please, let me know – because seriously? I see nothing but heartache for me and/or others no matter which side of the ‘fence’ I stand on – Thanks!” – πŸ˜€

      I’d like to believe this protects me from waterboarding/torture too – I don’t know – I’ve lived with what feels like torture, but is, in the end, not really, given what others in history/RIGHT now! are dealing with…. sigh –

      I would hope, in the end, I would be so out of my mind in pain? I could just spout off from deep within me, a thousand and one different options, that listed big foot, aliens, conspiracy theories out as ‘giving my torturers the information they want” – Which is one of the reasons I READ that stuff – want to have lots of brain fodder to laugh out in pain, to send idiots, short term thinking folks, bullies off on fake and dead ends leads, instead of giving up my family, friends, etc., just becuase, I NEED the pain to stop – I trust God and his decision on whether I go to Hell or not more than I trust those who seek Power through Force – LOL. and those who seek power here, through force?

      Well, they aren’t usually, the ‘sharpest knife in the kitchen’ or the ‘brightest crayon’ in the box – – πŸ˜€

      The world about me is in continual change – sometimes I need to change with it, sometimes I don’t and sometimes? I risk my life and all that I am, to resist the ‘changes’ other insist is ‘for the best’ –

      Two quotes – “The examined Life is No Picnic” and “Ignorance is Bliss” – unfortunately? I’m of the mindset, “Once on my radar reagrding actions/consequences? I’m ‘of a mind to examine’ and while it’s EASIER to ignore and say, “doesn’t apply to me” well – it does, especially in an advanced, collective society – full of those who seek power via force in all it’s forms – πŸ˜€

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Well written mate,
    Its so very easy to shrug off and think, β€œThey don’t get me, so why bother?”

    When communicating ideas is a struggle, without writing a 7-volume series reference manual of all the reasons, I feel such and such away, or what influenced me on feeling that way

    On this one i discovered that though we learnt at college to write more words and pages on something that needs 7 lines, the business and entrepreneurship world is only requiring a 3 minute pitch..LOL
    I think we need to unlearn and relearnπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ our education is teachings us what the practical world in nolonger accepting .

    You see Tamrahjo you learn and become good at writing those volumes and think you will make a fortune only to be trained by reality and learn from.univerisity drop outs who never written a thesis how to make a fortune LOL .

    So why bother?

    Liked by 1 person

    1. LOL – get the overall drift of your comment, but, lest you be in confusion, let me clarify – I’m not college educated – I’ve been told over and over, have tried to communicate and write and build things for others in 3 second form – picture with short line – 20 second elevator ride pitch – and yet to me?

      Sometimes that works, but overall? OPEN to ALL KINDS of misinterpretation – for example – I ASSUME from your blog, your about us page, etc., you are of a faith/sect of the Christian, Protestant sect, religion – and yet, I still am trying to understand how it is and what I should write/share regarding your question on ‘what is the madonna/whore’ complex? Because It has been around for so long – pre-Christian, Christianity (and I have to look up to refresh my memory!) but really brought to ‘common language/belief systems by St. Augustine in 400 A.D. (thus, centuries before the Catholic/Protestant ‘split/reformation” – and I wonder, out loud, how can a minister, who has attended college, has some seminary and theological training from somewhere! (college, ordained minister training, etc.!) Not be aware of this term? At all?

      Sigh – thus, to me? Given your request – I’ll have to write a post or series of posts, to explain all of it – as I see it, given my understanding – the short version? in 3 second, 3 or so words? Is SIMPLE – “Males see women in only two ways – as the Virgin Mother, perfect helpmate to further their needs/wants and not sullied by ‘base things of this World” OR or a whore/slave to be used, abused, and or not worthy of protection due to disobedience, etc.,” – That’s the short version – that doesn’t EVEN come CLOSE to how the term came about –

      Or explain how the label/term has been used over many, many centuries, etc.

      It just doesn’t – not for me – the above? To simplistic and doesn’t give Men their Due, on so many fronts –
      It punishes good men, sons, fathers, husbands, helpmates, colleagues who are male, in a simplistic way and it also discredits/lays waste, to all the women who are one, the other or somewhere in between both extremes, and trys to make simple, that which, is complex –

      And to me? Shortening things for instant marketability always has consequences – – for instance:

      In my youth, we didn’t eat out a lot – it was special, a treat, more expensive than cooking at home, etc.
      In my youth, one Fast Food entity (when Fast Food was growing, but still trying to gain market share in eating out options…)
      Put out marketing campaign that was short, catchy and had a lil jingle tune to go along with it,

      “Have it Your Way Today!”

      Okay – they were trying to ‘show their’ offerings that differed from their competitors – yeah, we’re FAST! But You CAN ALSO Special Order! We are here for you and your busy life!!!

      On the other hand – think about this one line and then think about how so much of the world, and perhaps you? Think about Americans – All Americans – our government, our politics, our economics, our warfare, our consumption and waste and abundant life styles when so many around the world survive with SO much LESS!??

      Now? Doesn’t that little cutesy, marketing jingle from the 1970s, 1980s take on a more darker, evil tone? Doesn’t it seem to speak to future doom and gloom on many fronts?

      To my mind?
      It does –
      But then – little in 2.5 second/attention/fashion/trending news really speaks to me much – LOL – – To me? Always something more to think about – and well, I’ve been gifted jewelry with diamonds in it, and was counseled by women older than me to ‘invest in quality jewelry, or marry some one who gifted it to me, cuz that ‘created my own nest egg’ for if I ever got tossed out on my ear – for failure to breed, produce a son or was a disobedient wife – LOL –

      But then? Over the years? I learned what the sales marketing pitches were doing to falsely inflate the price of diamonds and what purchase costs for most and what resale costs really were – I learned more about the hardships, civil war, exploitation, wars and horrible living conditions for many in countries that had ‘diamonds waiting below the surface, just WAITING to be mined by those who got the resource value” – and ya know what?

      I looked at all of it and thought, “I don’t want or need diamonds – and won’t engage in that shit, or demand it from others – ”

      Cuz, in my own little life? That was the best I could do on fronts I had totally under my own choices and control – πŸ˜€

      Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: